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I believe a magical flow exists for everyone’s life.
Not like a preordained destiny.
But certain paths exist that only you could walk due to your unique skills, experiences and circumstances.
I see it as an alignment of what gives you flow internally, with what’s flowing for you externally.
Csikszentmihalyi’s research beautifully articulates the concept of flow state and how to find your internal flow.
But to find what’s flowing externally I believe you need to listen to the universe.
The problem is the universe can’t use words. It uses other means that are easy to miss or dismissed as luck or coincidence if you’re not listening.
I believe the universe's language is ‘ease and resistance’ (which as an acronym is EAR, coincidence?).
Resistance as a way to redirect. Ease as a way to say continue.
The crazy 2 year journey I’ve been on since quitting my job has led to an unwavering belief in this.
There’s no other way for me to explain going from popping-up with 13 headsets on a beach on a small island in Thailand to becoming Bali’s largest supplier of silent disco headsets with 350 headsets and running events at beach clubs.
When you find your flow it’s crazy how quickly ambitions become reality.
My desire to write about this is to record reflections of my own journey. But equally to increase “safety” for others who are keen to find their flow. So without further ado…
Update #8: How To Make Healing Fun
What if healing didn’t need to feel like emotional burpees?
We’ve all been there.
You feel the call to do some self-work. So you:
Start journaling.
Go to a workshop or two.
Connect with your inner child.
Cry a little.
Chant something in Sanskrit you don’t fully understand.
We’ve all been there.
Then you just hope and assume it all works.
Only to realise at family Christmas half your family still triggers the f*ck out of you.
And you’re left feeling like the *work* never ends.
Here’s the plot twist nobody tells you:
Healing doesn’t have to be a grind. It can actually be fun.
Like, dopamine-fun. Like, this is fun-fun. Like, I want to keep doing this not out of guilt, but out of desire-fun.
But First: What Even Is Healing?
Before we can talk about fun, we need to talk about healing. And to talk about healing, we need to talk about the human-experience.
From the moment we’re born, we start collecting “emotional splinters”.
Little moments where we got shut down, laughed at, told we weren't being a “good girl / good boy”.
Eventually, we forget who we were before we got hurt. We begin to think it's normal that:
…saying “I need a hug” feels more vulnerable than sending a nude.
…we set alarms to wake up and then feel guilty for needing more sleep.
…we only dance if there’s alcohol, darkness, and a DJ.
…we treat burnout like a personality trait and call it “ambition.”
…we trust Google with our health, but not our own body’s signals.
…we have to “learn” how to breathe, be present, or express ourselves.
…we treat joy like a reward instead of a baseline.
Healing is the process of picking out all the ‘splinters’ so we can go back to our original loving, carefree, playful operating system.
Or if this was the Oxford Dictionary it would say something like: Overcoming the wounds and subconscious patterns that make us show up from fear instead of love.
So what does that mean scientifically-ish?
Let me introduce you to David Hawkins, who basically made an emotional periodic table.
He mapped out emotions by frequency:
On one end you have guilt, shame, desire. These are responses based on fear.
The other you have love, peace, willingness. These are responses based on love.
Courage is the line in the sand.
This chart isn't mapping emotional states like happy and sad. The goal also isn't to be full of "joy"all the time. That's toxic positivity. Rather, when something happens how do you react?
For instance when you face money stress is your default reaction to:
Fear = to worry and restrict
Desire = to chase or force outcomes
Courage = to take action and trust
Love = to feel gratitude and abundance
Each state describes a response.
So what's the whole point of healing?
To stop letting the scared little kid in your brain react to emotional splinters like they’re a ride at a 24/7 panic-themed amusement park.
You know the one.
They scream when you get left on “seen.”
They spiral when your bank balance drops below “existential dread.”
They think every conflict means abandonment.
Healing is when you finally walk in, give that little kid a hug, a lollipop and pull out the emotional splinters with some tweezers.
Now, instead of spiralling at every trigger, your system is like James Bond facing a bad guy. Cool, calm and sexy because you know you’ve got this.
That’s the upgrade.
Feeling safe to respond from a place of trust and that everything will be okay, no matter the circumstances.
Why Healing Usually Feels Like a Colonoscopy
Most healing feels hard because… well… it is.
Not because growth needs to be hard, but because we choose modalities based on the stories of others.
My friend was inspired to do breathwork because it “changed everything” for someone they knew. But for them and their ADHD brain it turned out to be a form of torture. They never “dropped in” so were forced to stare into the back of blindfold and lay there with their own thoughts for 60 minutes.
Another friend did a plant medicine retreat because his favourite podcast bros did it and was shocked to find himself physically purging out of both ends over a bucket for three nights.
Another friend forced themselves to meditate after hearing every self-help person recommend it. Only to send themselves into a daily guilt cycle when they felt like they “weren’t doing it right” and couldn’t do it for “long enough”.
And listen—I’ve done my share of crazy experiences:
I’ve cry-screamed while smashing a pillow, blindfolded, on an island in Thailand.
I’ve had my neighbours almost call an ambulance after hearing me release so hard during breathwork.
I’ve affirmated so hard I strained a metaphorical hamstring.
Through it all one thing became clear:
If it was fun, I stayed with it.
If it wasn’t I was like a 5 year-old when someone served me broccoli. I’d eat it if forced, but the minute I’m not, I ain’t doing it.
The problem with forcing ourselves into modalities that feel hard is healing is a continual process.
Unfortunately, not only do we have all our past trauma and conditioning but we continue to get ‘emotional splinters’ as we live life.
You can either continue to do these practices with brute force, or you could simply find ones that you enjoy.
How To Know Where To Start?
Where to even start with choosing a modality though?
Half the words you need an encyclopedia for: “What’s a Kundalini?”.
Others sound like a form of torture: “I have to lay their breathing while blindfolded for how long?”
And some you’re not even sure what the real benefits are: “What do they mean I’ll connect with my highest timeline?”
Tired of my own healing journey feeling like an unstructured mess, I eventually realised “healing” can be broken down into what I now call the Four R’s of Vibe Rise:
Recognise – Identify what trauma & beliefs are keeping you lower on the scale
Release – Practises that release your ‘emotional splinters’
Rewire – Rewire your subconscious beliefs and operating system to default to a higher place on the scale
Revitalise – Do things that empower this way of being to stay as the default
Every tool I tried—meditation, reiki and traditional therapy —fit into one of those four buckets.
This framework becomes a quiz and a guide.
Depending on what you’re struggling with you can determine which pillar you need to focus on:
Feeling like you’re carrying around an emotional sack of potatoes? You need to Release.
Feeling self-doubt, insecure and scared of judgement? You need to Rewire.
Don’t even know what’s wrong, you just feel like something is? You need to Recognise.
Were you feeling great and now feeling like you’re slipping back into old ways? You need to Revitalise.
At the start of your journey treat these tools like you’re at a buffet, try them all. But once you find what you like in each pillar, ditch the rest.
Why Funs Wins
Self-help bros will tell you success = discipline + ice baths + 4am wake-ups that make you hate your life.
Here’s my counteroffer: What if the secret was just doing stuff that lights you up?
Even if a practice starts off awkward or uncomfortable, you can hack it to make it fun. You just need to tweak the variables:
Who you do it with (friends = better)
How long you do it (start with 2 mins, not 20)
How intense you make it (don’t be a hero, start easy and build up)
The first breathwork session I did was an easy 10 minute flow. I loved it so much I became excited to give a 45 minute session ago. After 6 months of 45 minute sessions I became bored so I started doing it while shaking.
One night, my girlfriend Spiff said something that hit me sideways:
“I believe healing is the most beautiful thing. It turns us into butterflies. But the process can be such a fucking drag. If we’re turning into these beautiful things, shouldn’t we enjoy the process?”
Amen Spiff.
Why use discipline when you can use dopamine?
What If Healing Was A Playground?
This isn’t just some woo-woo reframing. This is about understanding yourself and the process of healing.
This is the whole point of Vibe Rise, a movement I’m creating is to make healing a vibe, not a chore.
We’re building experiences that combine ancient wisdom with modern dopamine:
Vibe Mirror: An AI prompt to identify what blocks & beliefs are keeping you lower on the scale.
Vibe Rise Ritual – Think morning rave meets meditation. A 3-minute morning routine that empowers you to release any tension, rewire towards your ambitions and get you feeling high to start the day.
Frequency Flip – Gamifying the whole healing journey from recognise, to releasing, to rewiring to revitalising.
The entire movement is built on one core principle:
Healing can be as fun as partying.
What’s Coming Up?
Rise & Vibe: a 5-day wake-up and dance challenge to give you a daily dose of dopamine to start the day.
Starts July 1st. I’m aiming for 100 people this next cohort. Reply to this email if keen!
Funny Moment From The Last Month
A few weekends ago I collab’d with a friend who runs events with these bounce shoes. The night before the event she drops on me that she wants me to create a guided routine for the guys to serenade the girls. The chosen song: Satisfaction.
The outcome?
I’ll let you be the judge:
Until the next newsletter,
Much Love,
Huzz